So, are you still with her or what?
I wish I could give you a straight answer, but it’s too complicated. We had fun, if you know what I mean, 14 times now. She gets mad if I’m talking with other women. She tells me if I come into our local hangout with another woman that she’s going to start trouble. All that tells me that we are a couple.
However, we haven’t slept together now in like 3 or 4 months. We do stuff together, but it’s not the same. She tells me about a month ago that we’re not a couple, and that she never tried to give me the wrong impression that we were. She says something like so you think we’re a couple because you’ve seen me naked a couple of times? I tell her that we’ve been together 14 times, and she said bull****.
After the third time we were intimate, I started taking notes about what we did and when we did it. So I sent her an email saying that this is why I thought we were a couple. I listed all the times that we did something, all 14 times by the way, and mentioned how she gets jealous, and how she would try to ruin a relationship between me and another woman. I said for all these reasons and more, this is why I thought we were a couple.
I said if we were just friends, you wouldn’t care in the least if I was with another woman. I feel like a contingency plan; a backup. I mean, we can really have fun when we want, but sometimes, she’ll come into our local pub and say hi, sit with other people and pretty much ignore me the entire time.
My friend said if I want her to pay attention to me, I need to break off all contact for a week or two. I guess the idea here is to let her think I’m done, maybe with someone else, and then she’ll start to miss me and realize just how much she needs me. I’ve done this before for 3 or 4 days, but didn’t think it had any impact. But I found out last night that it did. I guess she was asking our friends if they had seen or talked with me.
She already texted me twice today. Once to see how my golf game went, and to see if I’d drop by to help her with her antivirus. I’m taking my friend’s advice and I’m not contacting her. We’ll have to see how that goes.