Originally posted by AI
what?! am i just invisible to you people or something?
you know, when some on is upset youre suppose to try
and make them feel better, i know you guys can ive seen you
do it with others
so why not me?!
anyways ive had enough of you ppl for one day, im going to bed
No AI, you are far from invis. (I do have to sleep sometime you know!) But I think you are reading more into what I am talking about than what is needed. You seem to be talking about women you want to eventually date. What I am talking about is a woman you don't have any intention of dating. It also looks like your messing with GIRLS and not women. And no I am not talking about women who are 15 years your senior. Little girls play games. (I am talkin maturity levels here) It's wrong and I hate it. And a lady who is secure in herself and comfortable in her own skin rarely feels the need to play those kinds of crappy games.
When I was younger I tried that crap a couple of times and hated myself for it and hated the pain I caused, so at an early age (15) I made up my mind that I would not do the, "lets just be friends" thing. I let it be known up front, gently if I was not interested. I would be the same way today if I was single. At the first sign of there being more intention there than what I am comfortable with, I would let it be known before things got too far, that I was not interested.
Thats how it should be, but sadly it's not how most girls are raised. There is entirely too much male bashing and male hatred around these days for my taste. And women these days seem to forget that men have feelings and hearts too. At the same time, as much as WAnk was making jokes, and being tongue in cheak yesterday, there really ARE men out there that have the attitude put forth in his posts. And thats just as wrong as the "lets just be friends crap"
So who is right in this? No one. Both sides are right and wrong. I could get very simplistic about this, but I well remember the angst of being young and alone. There is more to it than meets the eye. I also know that the chase is part of the fun and mystiqe of gaining a relationship, but if you want to love, then you have to be willing to risk your whole heart and be willing to accept both victory and defeat too.
