No GeneticFreak, you weren't mean. You told her, as dispassionately as you could, to leave you alone. If she doesn't get the message, tell the police.
I had the same problem with a girl who had a big crush on me. She’s my friend, but I’m just not interested. Admittedly, she isn’t dangerous, so I handled it very differently: I continued to treat her as a friend, and whenever she said something to imply she wanted me as ‘more than a friend,’ I simply let it float right past.
She waited a long time. I made her wait a long time. Now she finally has a crush on another guy. I never hadto confront her feelings for me—but only because I didn’t have it in me to confront her feelings for me.
You know, I may have made a mistake, a mistake I don’t regret—yet. My friend is everything you’d want for a girlfriend, but I’m just not interested. Instead, I’m going for a girl who’s going through the same, exact psychological problems I went through at her age. My friend really, really wanted me, and I doubt anyone else—this girl included—will want me that much.
Perhaps subconsciously, I’m rationalizing it via, “Well, my friend has enough self-esteem that she doesn’t need me, and this girl probably needs me more.” But I just don’t know. We’ll just have to see.
